Stop guessing
what's holding
your score back.

For the past few years I've been speed-running through life. I've been extremely fortunate to switch careers, get married and have my first child - with another already on the way. At the heart of this whirlwind of change is my wife.

Long before I met her, I was a calculative and risk-adverse individual. I played by the rules and believed that as long as I kept my head down and worked hard, I would be rewarded for it. This belief stemmed from the perspectives I had towards my parents. They were immigrants who relied solely on hard work to achieve the Australian dream.

I had already laid out a plan for my future. Graduate university and enter a reputable engineering or consulting company. Find a future wife and propose when I am financially secure in my 30s. My point of reference was not from an internal compass of personal desire but from what I saw reflected in society.

My wife took this perspective and flipped it upside down. When she planned her wedding she was wholly content with a cheap dress and a rented out public gazebo overlooking Observatory Hill. A far cry from the grand ballrooms of Dolton House.